A George Bernard Shaw quote recently came across my Twitter feed. It read “we don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” This resonated with me because my fear of growing old prematurely – as a result of reading and believing it –became a reality. When my kids were younger, I took on the teaching role and enjoyed interacting with them as they learned through play. My husband, on the other hand, was more comfortable having them perched on the souls of his feet, arms outstretched, while he extended his legs into the air and they howled with pleasure. As they grew older, they interacted more with their friends than with us. Now when I see them play charades with their friends, for example, I am reminded about the power of play and how it is a key way for us humans to connect. Here are some things to keep in mind about the importance of play and why you might want to fake it until you make it.
Preschoolers: Preschoolers are naturals at play. A large cardboard box can become a hiding place or a house. Sheets and pillows, an indoor tent and paper with markers can keep them well engaged. They’re pretty much game for anything, especially when they have you by their sides.
School Age: School-aged kids are more likely to enjoy role playing and fantasy play. Dressing up in their favourite super hero outfit or even in old clothing from a dress up box can be the answer to a cold day spent indoors. Despite this seeming like a difficult or tedious chore at first, you can learn a lot from engaging with your children in role playing. They will often re-enact situations happening in real life which helps you understand their inner thoughts even more.
Teens: By the time your child becomes a teen, he will likely have begun to feel more inhibited and less inclined to engage in fantasy play, other than when online. Organized play such as golf – indoor or out – a chess or other board game or basketball, may be more in keeping with what he or she considers play time. However, watch your teen with her friends to see how playful they can still be with one another and encourage most of this behaviour – even when it appears silly.
Originally published in ParentsCanada magazine, Nov/Dec 2016.