You’re The Expert: How You Get Your Children to Listen



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In a recent online survey, we asked you to tell us how you get your kids to listen. Here are some of our favourite responses:

Speaking in a normal tone of voice but being firm when I speak…that generally gets the reaction I am looking for.
Kristine Hibbs, Goulds, NL

I always get down on my knees at their level and looked them in the eyes to talk to them. Give them the attention and respect they deserve and they will respond with the same.
Sandra Edwards, Sault Ste. Marie, ON

Whisper in their ear. I have worked in the daycare system for many years and now with my own two children this technique works like a charm. They feel loved, special attention is given and they can hear you clearly. I do this only when they are in a busy situation or tired. That is when your children don’t listen the most. When you need your child to understand to stop when you say stop (when you are on a walk by a busy road and they wander when a car is coming for instance) then use only those louder words when in a desperate situation. Works for a one-year-old to a tween. They will listen to those louder words then because they don’t hear it that often and understand that it is an important word and they listen.
Joanne Dreise, Belgrave, ON

Actually making my son stop what he’s doing and look at me is a must. I can be a spaz, and my son can be super hyper so things can get NUTS, but nothing gets solved when we’re all loud and worked up. When I stop, sit down and make my son stop what he’s doing and look at me, he listens much better… at least for a few minutes!
Kathryn Lavallee, Lumsden, SK

After many months of struggling with this issue, especially with my eldest, my husband and I have made a breakthrough. We sat the boys down and simply told them we are no longer going to get mad when they don’t listen. We are simply going to take things away.  Whether it be video games for three days or their favourite toy, they now understand when we talk or ask them to do something we only need to do so once!
Karen Marcella, Paris, ON

Often, when I am asking my kids to listen to me or to do something in particular, I’ll ask them to repeat what I said right after. They’re now conditioned that when they get the ‘eyeball’ from Mom that they need to repeat what I said and do it…it works remarkably well!
Alexandra Lukas, Mississauga, ON

For the older two, I sing their name in a sort of operatic falsetto, then continue to sing the message they need to hear. They have learned that they need to respond to that pitch and for some reason don’t tune it out the same way they do with simply increasing volume. Maybe because I’m tone deaf and can’t carry a tune at all. It does keep the mood much lighter as well.
Fenna Poelzer, Spruce Grove, AB

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