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10 Activities To Help Your Baby’s Brain Development
September 25, 2022
8 min Read
September 25, 2022
When Nancy Costa looks into the face of her adorable two-month-old daughter Bella, she can’t help but smile. As Bella stares back, her eyes brighten and her tiny hands begin to fidget. The more Nancy smiles and talks, the more Bella responds. It’s a sweet and simple moment between mother and child.
“I was never around babies much and didn’t know if I had that natural instinct,” says first-time mom Nancy, 32, who lives in Burlington, Ont. “It’s funny, though, that I really don’t even think about what I’m doing with her. It just comes naturally.”
It’s easy to see the loving connection between mother and baby in this moment. What you don’t see are the infant brain cells that are growing. Bella’s brain is developing as a direct result of this close contact with her mom.
Parents typically respond intuitively to cues from their child, picking them up when they cry and talking to them when they fuss. What many parents don’t know, however, is that by simply responding to their baby’s cues, they are helping their newborn’s brain develop.
The more Nancy interacts with her baby and the closer the connection, the more Bella’s brain will grow, says Dr. Jean Clinton, clinical professor at Department of Psychiatry and Behavioural Neurosciences at McMaster University in Hamilton, Ont.
That’s why when Dr. Clinton speaks on brain development to parents and professionals across the country her motto is, “love builds brains.”
“Everything your baby sees, feels, hears and experiences stimulates the brain. It’s about connecting, connecting, connecting with your baby by picking up on their cues and responding to their needs. I call it the felt connection.”
Brain cells, or neurons, begin to multiply at a rate of about 250,000 per minute at around four weeks after conception. At birth, a baby’s brain is only about 25 percent of its approximate adult weight and will grow more during the first three years than any other time in a human’s life.
To illustrate what brain growth looks like, Dr. Clinton holds her hands six inches apart and moves her fingers about like tentacles to show what a baby’s neuropathways look like at birth. Slowly she brings her fingers closer together until they are touching. Then she overlaps her fingers and neatly clasps her hands together. This represents how stimulation affects a fully formed brain.
The good news for parents is you are probably doing a lot already to help your baby’s brain development. Here are Dr. Clinton’s top 10 recommended activities:
Baby researchers have a term for the simple interplay between a parent and child.
They call it “the serve and return” because, says Dr.Clinton, it’s like a game of tennis in which you play back and forth. “When they look at you, you respond by smiling or talking. That’s just what we know how to do as parents. You don’t need fancy tablets or flash cards. You just need to connect with your child.”
“Touch is a primal need,” says Dr. Clinton. That’s why babies love to be held. The late Clyde Hertzman, former director of the Human Early Learning Partnership (HELP) and Canada Research Chair in Population Health and Human Development at UBC, said touching helps babies begin to define their boundaries. “There is evidence to show that children who were neglected and not touched have real trouble defining where their personal boundaries begin.” Clyde said even the simple motion of picking a child up and putting them down is an important touch for babies. “They begin to be able to intuitively define where the self ends and where the non-self begins, where their body ends and where the next persons begins.”
At some point all children learn the game of throwing food over the side of their highchair
and watching mom or dad pick it up. Through this simple game babies are learning about action and reaction and how to interact with their environment. “They love the anticipation of peekaboo,” says Dr. Clinton. “It’s all about cause and effect and object permanence. You’re teaching them that even when you don’t see me, I’m still here. That’s hugely important.”
Babies also like things to be predictable, says Adele Diamond, Canada Research Chair Professor of Developmental Cognitive Neuroscience at the University of British Columbia and B.C. Children’s Hospital in Vancouver. “They LOVE seeing their actions produce an effect and being able to re-produce that again and again, like pulling the string of a mobile to see it move or pressing on a button to make a buzzer sound.” Adele suggests giving babies challenges that make them work hard but that are still doable. For example, between eight and 12 months, you can place a desired object where the baby can see it, but out of reach or under a cloth. The baby needs to figure out that getting the object requires pulling on the cloth or reaching for it.
Reading to your baby is one of the most powerful things you can do to boost baby’s brain development because it is multi-sensorial, says Dr. Clinton. “When you hold and rock your child while you are reading, it involves sight, hearing, touch and smell.” Studies show newborns even recognize books their mothers read aloud while they were pregnant.
The sensory experience of soothing water deliver a powerful boost to baby’s brain development. For an added bonding bonus, climb into the tub with baby to maximize precious skin-to-skin contact.
Introducing different scents can be a fun way to stimulate your baby’s brain development. Try applying lavender lotion during a nightly massage or take a trip to the garden to smell the flowers.
Parents often receive mixed messages about when and how often to respond to their crying baby. Crying is a response to stress for a baby and is the only way they have to communicate. When we pick them up, says Dr. Clinton, we are teaching them that the world is there for them, so don’t secondguess your instinct to pick them up. Babies who get picked up and soothed will likely cry less because they’re developing their own self-soothing techniques, said Clyde. “Children are influencing their environment right off the bat and you responding to the cues they’re giving is a huge thing. It’s telling them that you hear what they are saying.”
Studies show that, regardless of culture, men play differently with babies than women, and babies benefit from both kinds of play. “While women tend to cuddle with baby, men tend to pick baby up, hold them out front and walk their fingers along them from the bottom to the top,” says Dr. Clinton. “It’s terrific because mom is soothing and dad activates excitement so the little one hears dad’s voice and gets excited.” This applies to grandpas, uncles and male friends, too.
By talking to your baby, you are helping them develop their vocabulary even when they’re infants. “All that babbling and cooing that’s going on early, that’s the child’s prelanguage skills developing,” said Clyde. “Babies express their needs and start to communicate in a variety of ways. Parents need to recognize that’s communication.” Studies have shown that the number of words a child learns by the age of three grows in direct correlation to how many words are spoken in the home.
Cuddling with your baby is as important to their brain development as being active with them. “Don’t make it all about language and brain,” said Clyde. As with so much parenting advice, it’s all about balance. “If we’re frantically saying to new parents that they have to make every single moment count, their presence is being stolen by their anxiety. When you’re connecting with your child, think about what you’re doing with your child as a person, not about whether you’re building your child’s brain.”
Denise Davy has written extensively about children’s mental health, and has won a journalism award from the Canadian Institutes of Health Research to study the link between poverty and children’s mental health.
Originally published in ParentsCanada magazine, May/June 2013.