“Mine!” was one of the first words in my toddler’s vocabulary. While at first I found this possessiveness cute and endearing, I became embarrassed by it when we found ourselves at a playdate. “Sharing is caring,” another Mom said as my toddler white knuckled the toy shopping cart, veering around another child who was making a move for it. We clearly weren’t caring about sharing. My toddler had happily shared her cheerios with me that morning, popping them playfully into my mouth. So why wouldn't she share her toys?
Of course, as adults, we know sharing is the socially acceptable thing to do. That’s because we have developed empathy and compassion for others. We know it feels good when others share with us so we want to share with them. But the concept of sharing involves social and emotional skills that toddlers haven’t developed yet. Just as we know a toddler doesn’t have the fine motor function to tie their own shoe laces, we shouldn’t expect them to share when they aren’t developmentally ready to do so.
This can seem really frustrating to parents, especially when your toddler won't share at a playdate and you really want to meet a new...
A throwback to the '60s, beef stroganoff is similar to a simple stew, made creamy with sour cream and traditionally served over buttered egg noodles. Using cheaper, tougher cuts of meat and slow-cooking them (or using the pressure cooker) results in a divinely tender, flavourful dish that requires very little effort to prepare. It’s perfect cold-weather food.
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The first week of school is under our belts. If you’ve noticed more challenging behaviours than normal in the after-school hours, you’re not alone. Increased hyperactivity and meltdowns after school are so common, they even have a clinical name: “after-school restraint collapse”.
School involves a lot of stimulation; from the bright lights to heightened noise levels, not to mention interacting with a lot of kids and teachers. School also comes with a lot of expectations and rules to follow. Children are on their best behaviour at school, trying to follow all of the school's rules. At the same time, their brains are working hard to recall information. The school day is also full of various emotions, which children often suppress in order to get through the day. Once they're at home in their safe space - kaboom! All of these emotions that they’ve been keeping under their belt get released into behaviours that don't seem to make sense to parents.
When you ask the teacher about your child’s behaviour, you’re told they’re calm and happy, yet at home they’re screaming about every little thing. “Children want to please and work hard to mask their symptoms throughout the day,” says Michelle...